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If he's married and his wife rejects him and he has previous rejection scars. He WANTS his wife but she has a whole host of hurdles for him to be close to her . He doesn't WANT a different woman. He wants the woman he loves and wants her to want him and NOT react him. Most Women get close emotionally before physically and most men get close physically to be closer emotionally. I prefer to be loved more than sex but there's strings attached to everything it seems.

I’m curious if challenging one another can look like encouragement or cheerleading? I tend to think that people inherently want to grow and learn and become better… is there a way to challenge that feels inspiring/exciting/affirming/encouraging/celebratory around growth opportunities and successes, addresses people’s concerns or fears around growth if there is any? For me, the idea of being “challenged” or “challenging” someone else can seem to me to be argumentative or oppositional or lacking true understanding and feels a bit disconnected… what are your thoughts on this?

In the meantime women expect men to lower their standards, drizzle drizzle

I have some qualities of covert narcissism. Therapists tend to mostly focus on overt narcissism and tell me I cant have it because a narcissist would never admit they had it. Either way, I have qualities of it. And I know with 100% certianty I have a huge amount of shame hiding under my false image I show the world. I even feel like a fraud in thearpy because I want them to think im a good person & never tell them the truth of who I really can be. Ive done some emotional work & I know theres a lot of shame & anger hiding under my "good person" facade. I always stop the emotional work when it gets too close to the true pain. This video is very helpful. Im going to write those four things down & focus on working on them.

Is that an actual question??!!! Holy heck! We don't NEED partners!

This isn't exactly about a "relationship," but it does involve someone who disres pected me and made me feel fooIish. Can I share my story and context and hear your advice?

Ita painful its 10 years nothing happened

We can do better- Jacqui

Honest communication from two self respecting adults is the advice I have I met the mother of my child that way unfortunately I had unhealed trauma that caused the end of our relationship I did not know how to love myself. I am learning how to and all my codependency issues are clearing you was married for 7 years to a very narcissistic woman causing me narcissistic abuse syndrome I have had to do a lot of work to be backed to the point I am now

I fired my therapist. She talk about her politics in my session. She purposely cause me autistic meltdowns. She tell me go up against other people and even spoke bad about other companies. She even asked me if i was going report her to social work board. She did da on me and then next week she said she forgot to give me a diagnosis after she asked me if i was going report her. She was going give me a bs diagnosis. I getting tested for oral cancer. She said to me, if they cut your tongue out , can you still talk if you have no tongue? She had big smirk on her face. I fired her. This woman is trauma therapist as well. She should not be therapist.

He married me for financial benefits and i realised this very late. 3 children together and i feel so trapped. All that u have said fits into my situation. I feel so broken for being used. I really want someone to love me for who i am and not what i have. Unfortunately he makes it so difficult for me to move on because of his frequent threats.😢

We can do better- Helen

No. We're always hanging and never reconnect. That's why I'm about done.

RIP

The thing is if you're the only one who is ready to work on healthier arguing or you're the only one who is ready to apologize when it's reasonable, you start to feel like everyone's idiot at some point. And when you've finally had it, you start to lash out and suddenly you're made to be the biggest asshole ever seen. This isn't about my partner. My family does this. Pretty much all of them and I'm so exhausted. I'm everyone's idiot.

Whats the advice exactly?

Great video, really helpful, explaining how it is, showing how it could be better ..... thank you so much only...there are impotrant things being said at the end, the loud music makes it difficult to hear and focus on. i think it would be better with no music or a lower volume of it.

Be present for one another ❤

I am an anxious attachment and my gf is avoidant. Whenever things get good she is “too tired” to see me or is too busy. How can I make our relationship progress ?

The relationship is truly over when both people are unwilling to try councelling or councelling isn't making a difference

Thanks I didn't leave I have job lose it I'm relationship is I think over 😢😢

WTF? This is terrible advice.

thank u for info

Not settling.

I like this channel very much thanks!

I need help within myself.

True. Resent / anger is helpful if you understand why it's there.

Wow. I just started listening to this and it’s really resonating with me. Thanks you so very much. 🙏❤️

Men or women any relationship if you need them to be your everything 24/7. Then you probably need to look internally

Men tend to yell, women tend to cry. If men yell too much women feel unsafe, if he cries, women can feel unattracted to him. If women cry and blubber, men want to fix what's causing it, which of course they can't. And it feels like it's one more thing they have to " deal with" Men and women want a relationship partner not a baby.

Life with an avoidant! It’s horrible!

Don’t date someone initially that doesn’t have any kind of goals 🙄

The stress is so much for me

I am happy being availble , life is enjoable without additional bs and dramma , most people are too fd up and disfunctional to even have a deep and healthy relationship , deep means a squat it has to be healthy, men and women are too broken these days not much long term can come out of majority of interactions , saying this I mean be proactive but be real , I happy just going to the beach for a swim having a great meal , meditating and enjoying nature the rest I am open only for healthy interaction with healthy mentally women otherwise I will pass

Yes. Absolutely.

When this person goes silent and the other doesn’t immediately give them space because of an anxious attachment style is that just a need for compromise and understanding or is someone at fault?

It really really sucks to hear such a brilliant man misunderstand his own projections onto Trump while speaking about projecting lol. He doesn’t actually see Trump at all. Very sad.

Can this happen if they put up a wall?

You’ve got such great relationship insights👌

Brilliant analysis

But what do u say when they tell u to just get over it, it’s not a big deal or to stop being so selfish for thinking about urself?

Watching you made me more inspired to share the impact with as many people who are vulnerable enough to share the trials and tribulations within their relationships with me! Thank you, Jasyn for being so authentic and encouraging coaches everywhere to do the same!! What a difference the world and all relationships would be if everyone could be their true self and live their life authentically!

Makes perfect sense!

As I was Watching this video I felt very inspiring I believe sharing an impact is a huge crucial element for Coaching and it’s definitely a tool that I want to be using for when I coach clients to be giving them feedback when it comes to to relationships and it also allows them to know that they are also connecting with another human and it show that you are not robotic and they get to see to feel safe seen soothed and support and challenged and understood when your sharing and impact with them and that they are interacting with a human being who can contribute to their growth and to their experience when sharing an impact . That is is tool I Definitely want to be using to also create vulnerability and to allow for exploration and openness . JUAN P

Thank you

Thank you Jayson🍁

Thanks for sharing your truth and how to do that.

That doesn’t work as women never learn

You always make an impact Jayson🍀

She left a year ago and came back. Only to ghost me 😢